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Posted on May 8, 2017 by Errol Castens | Leave a comment
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In the immediate aftermath of a death, some bereaved people turn all their energies to “doing what needs to be done.” Others may be in such shock that they can only say, “I don’t know what to do.” In either case, there’s a world of help that close friends and family members can give. Here […]

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Funeral food: A blessing, within limits

Posted on May 1, 2017 by Errol Castens | 2 Comments
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It may seem heretical to say it here in the South, but funeral food – that reflexive response to tragic news – can have a downside. Especially in small towns and rural communities, taking sliced ham, deviled eggs (“stuffed” eggs in some locales), potato salad, green-bean casseroles, pimiento cheese sandwiches, pecan pie, and the like […]

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Well, then, what SHOULD I say?

Posted on April 26, 2017 by Errol Castens | Leave a comment
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Even with the best of intentions, it’s easy to say something that could be unhelpful – or even downright hurtful – to people who are grieving. Nancy Guthrie’s book, What Grieving People Wish You Knew about What Really Helps (and What Really Hurts), offers some safe ground. Her insights come from being that grieving person […]

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‘Rosie’ Busby was remembered as he lived

Posted on April 20, 2017 by Errol Castens | 2 Comments
Posted under Community, Grief, People, Planning

  It isn’t every funeral in which the guest of honor is reposed in an old-fashioned, six-sided coffin, surrounded by the equipment and tools that were the focus of his life’s work. But when Mr. Young Roosevelt “Rosie” Busby’s family decided to host his memorial service in the workshop adjacent to his Abbeville home, they […]

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What Not to Say to Grieving People

Posted on April 13, 2017 by Errol Castens | Leave a comment
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In What Grieving People Wish You Knew About What Really Helps (and What Really Hurts), Nancy Guthrie offers insights gained from the loss of two children from genetic disease and the work she and her husband have done since with other grieving couples. In the previous blog, we looked at some basics – that being […]

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